You helped us face my daughter's abuser

You helped us face my daughter's abuser


DEAR DEIDRE: THANK you, Deidre, for holding my hand during the most difficult period of my life.

Earlier this year, my daughter’s abuser was up in court charged with historic sexual abuse.

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He had been her babysitter when she was a young child, and I had no idea that he had molested her between the ages of seven and nine.

It turned out she wasn’t his only victim.

Preparing for the court case was a huge slog for us. I’m 56, and many times we felt like giving up.

It dredged up a lot of painful memories for us all. We weren’t sure we’d get justice.

You helped me to support her, and recommended an organisation that she could talk to, The Survivors Trust (

You also recommended counselling for me, because I felt so guilty about not protecting her.

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I’m pleased to say that at trial, her abuser was found guilty and sentenced to five years in prison.

My daughter, now 30, can move forward with her life, knowing justice has been done.

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DEIDRE SAYS: You are both so strong.

I’m so glad that I was able to help you through this ordeal and that he has been locked up.

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