I love my wife but keep having sexual fantasies about my former work colleague

I love my wife but keep having sexual fantasies about my former work colleague

04/06/2022

DEAR DEIDRE: I LOVE my wife to bits but I can’t stop thinking about a woman I used to work with.

Nothing ever happened between us – we were just good friends and she’s married.


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But I keep dreaming about her. It’s often sexual.

I’m 42, my wife is 40 and this ex-colleague is 36.

I’ve not seen her properly in two years, as she changed jobs, though we’ve run into each other a few times.

I don’t understand why I can’t stop thinking about her.

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I’m not unhappy at home. My wife is gorgeous, kind and funny.

But something about the other woman draws me to her.Why is this happening and what should I do?

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Because nothing ever happened, she seems perfect and exciting. Maybe your relationship has grown a little stale – or is there something else in your life that is unsatisfactory?

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