I can't keep an erection with my girlfriend – I feel like a failure | The Sun

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my new girlfriend and I get to the bedroom, I’m always an embarrassing flop. 

She’s beautiful, kind and has a cracking figure, so I don’t understand why I can’t cope when we try to have sex.

My mind is turned on, but my body just won’t cooperate. It’s never happened  before.

I’m 29 and my girlfriend is 20. We’ve been seeing each other for two months and I fear that if something doesn’t change, she’ll dump me.

To be honest, I’m surprised she was ever interested in me in the first place. She’s out of my league – a ten, while I’m a five, maximum.

She told me she likes older guys and she thinks I’m cute, sexy and funny.

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Each time I lose my erection, she is  understanding, and I try to please her in other ways.

She says she has enjoyed it, but obviously we both want to have proper sex.

I’m starting to dread her sleeping over because I’m so anxious about this.

I’m sure her patience is going to run out soon just like I’m running out of excuses. 

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DEIDRE SAYS: Most men have trouble keeping an erection at some point. 

In young men, this is almost always a psychological issue, not a physical problem. 

If you get early morning erections and masturbate normally, it’s likely the cause is in your mind. 

Usually, it’s a vicious circle – the more you worry it’ll happen, the more it occurs. My support pack  Erection Problems will tell you how to sort this out. 

You  sound like you may have low self-confidence, which won’t help.

Remind yourself this girl really likes you. And read my support pack, Raising Self-Esteem.

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